First and foremost, I am NOT a supporter of the lack of marriage equality. Especially because I live in a state that seems to think I should NOT be allowed to marry my beautiful future wife.
One of the most common responses to our announcement to friends, after congratulations and wow you guys don't even live together yet!, is the question of where we will be getting married. Will we go to a state that recognizes same sex marriages as marriages? Will we get married for "real"? Which is a perfectly normal question and a good one to ask ourselves. Do we want/ need/ desire a signed document from the government stating we are legally bound to one another? I completely want that piece of paper. However going to another state to get married doesn't change anything in our daily lives in our limited benefit state. I want to get married for "real" here! I want every state I pass through/ live in/ dream about vacationing in to recognize my wife as my wife!
I have read about couples getting married legally outside of their state, having a small legal ceremony and then having a big, closer to home wedding. That brings up two issues with me. One, I am so not made of money. Our wedding is going to be spendy in that it's an unnecessary expense and damn if it's not going to be effing fabulous! So the idea of shelling out money for our big fat gay wedding here and then arranging to fly to another state and do something there, well it makes my wallet cringe. Plus who do you invite to the legal ceremony? And then where?? The second issue is that then one of your weddings becomes more real than the other. What's the opposite of real? Fake. And I don't want even a slight hint of fake having anything to do with our wedding. There is nothing more real than the undying love we have for each other and that's exactly what a wedding should be about.
Not having the option to legally wed in Alaska (thanks jerkfaces), in a way opens up way more choices. Well hell if we can't get married here, lets go somewhere where we can! And fuck, if it doesn't make a difference legally, why even stay in the country? We could get married in some interesting places. Iceland anyone? The Prime Minister and her partner just legally tied the knot. Hurray ladies! But then that really just expands on the issue of how many weddings and who attends which and blah blah blah. Not being able to legally wed has really made me at least think about a lot of different possibilities that I might not have otherwise. All of this is just an interesting observance and no effing way an endorsement for my lack of choice in the matter. I just want the choice to stay in my boring little rainy ass town and declare my love and dedication to the love of my life in front of my friends and family. And then have it "mean something" when I file my taxes.
And while my ranting amps up, might I just add how disappointing (or maybe surprising) the location of same sex marriage states is? I am very, very happy that we have five states to marry in. Currently they are Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, and Washington, D.C. Same sex marriages are recognized but not performed in New York, Rhode Island, and Maryland. Um hello progressive yet ass backwards West Coast! Wake up and let us marry! Just plain ridiculous. All of it is ridiculous. The fact that "thirty states have constitutional amendments explicitly barring the recognition of same-sex marriage, defining civil marriage as a legal union between a man and a woman" is so completely maddening! I have never, even (or perhaps more so) when I was "straight", been able to wrap my mind around the idea that someone should have control over someone else when it comes to matters that don't truly affect anyone else. Specifically when it comes to pro-choice and gay rights. I heatedly debated and defended both topics in high school. I so vividly remember being incensed by this very holier than thou girl and her teeny tiny closed minded views. Incomprehensible. How can someone stand there and say what I can or can't do when it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with them!?
Sheesh, that's my rant. I guess the bottom line is that it does make a difference to everyone, gay or not. The right to marry fight isn't new, we just have different players this time. The right to interracial marriage is only 43 years old, it was recognized on June 12 (my birthday!), 1967. That is not so very long ago. My parents were married that year. One could reason that they had friends who were interracial couples whom up until that date were legally banned from being married. Yet today that idea is unacceptable. That's what I want, for the idea of the banned gay marriages to be unacceptable, because it is!
Whilst wiki-seaching facts, I came across a quote from Mildred Loving, half of the historic couple who fought for their right to marry. Here it is, gently stolen from the ol' wik...
On June 12, 2007, Mildred Loving issued a rare public statement, which commented on same-sex marriage, prepared for delivery on the fortieth anniversary of the Loving v. Virginia decision of the US Supreme Court. The concluding paragraphs of her statement read as follows:
“ Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don't think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the "wrong kind of person" for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people's religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people's civil rights.
I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard's and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support the freedom to marry for all. That's what Loving, and loving, are all about. ”
Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
Showing posts with label real life importance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label real life importance. Show all posts
Friday, July 23, 2010
Friday, July 16, 2010
Pictures of Awesome Epicness
The lovely superbly amazing K and myself...
Moments after getting engaged!
Our fantastic living room...
The incredible view from said living room...
Got all crafty last weekend and made her a hat, Jack a cat toy and three beer/ diet coke coozies.
Lovely ladies, err gentlemen from the drag show!
Moments after getting engaged!
Our fantastic living room...
The incredible view from said living room...
Got all crafty last weekend and made her a hat, Jack a cat toy and three beer/ diet coke coozies.
Lovely ladies, err gentlemen from the drag show!
Monday, March 1, 2010
Wet cats, Adrenaline, & Heath Food
Starting from right now going backwards. Mother effing Jack has magically become an outdoor cat today. And so far her favorite activity is to go out the little kitty door, stand in the rain until she is soaked and then come downstairs, whine and meow and run up to me (and my computer) and shake dry. It's awesome. Oh and while she's standing outside soaking up EVERY raindrop, she's standing in mud. Little kitty paw prints everywhere. They'd be cute if they didn't go across my bed!
I volunteered to help clean out the bar storage unit with the lovely S today. We both felt like not doing it when we got up however. So we went to breakfast out in le valley and then decided to go to a matinee. Drove back downtown to watch either The Crazies or Legion. Couldn't decide so we flipped a coin. The Crazies won. HOLY HELL! So good. I didn't realize how tense it made me until we left the theatre and I was shaking. I seriously flipped out and couldn't stop looking around and just feeling unsettled. Good job movie maker peeps! So then we decided why not be really lazy and make a full day of hookie and go see Legion. So we did. Decent movie, nice amount of blood right off the bat. A bit slow in parts, but perhaps that's because I felt like my heart hadn't calmed down from the prior movie. After our movie marathon S took me over to H Dot's house to have dindin. H and I decided to have dinner and have it be healthy organic stuff after watching Food Inc the other day.
Talk about a horror film! Having been a vegan I know a fair share about how bad feedlots and mega farms are, but can usually ignore it for the most part. For a while now I've been feeling a pull back to some kind of vegetarianism. This sealed the deal. I remember learning about all the bad shit animals go through. I remember how bad that food is for us. For our planet. I'm not saying people shouldn't eat meat. That is entirely up to the individual. But I know there's a better way. And genetically modified foods? We are fooling ourselves if we really think we can outsmart mother nature. Seriously, we can't bend nature to our will. We are not invincible. As much as we'd love to think we're unstoppable because we're at the top of the food chain, we're not. At the rate we're going, there won't BE a food chain to be on top of. We can only fuck with nature before we fuck ourselves. You know that whole thing about how we only have one Earth? Well it's true. We keep breeding down plant species until there are fewer and fewer varieties left. The strong ones! The big ones! The ones that will feed us forever! Until that day when the one last variety of tomato succumbs to some new mutated, pesticide resistant bug and then we've successfully sent the tomato into extinction. Go us!
One of the best things the movie got across is that we all make a difference. Watching the majority of the movie there is an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. That we can't turn to the government because they're in fucking bed with Monsanto and whatnot. Which is a damn waking nightmare. But what we can do is choose. Every time we shop, choose organic, choose items that specifically say non GMO, grass fed, etc. It will make a difference. "They" will notice. Our money is our ballot and we can make "them" change with each and every cent we don't spend on CAFO downer beef and hormone laced milk. At least I fucking hope so. Hope is all we have.
I volunteered to help clean out the bar storage unit with the lovely S today. We both felt like not doing it when we got up however. So we went to breakfast out in le valley and then decided to go to a matinee. Drove back downtown to watch either The Crazies or Legion. Couldn't decide so we flipped a coin. The Crazies won. HOLY HELL! So good. I didn't realize how tense it made me until we left the theatre and I was shaking. I seriously flipped out and couldn't stop looking around and just feeling unsettled. Good job movie maker peeps! So then we decided why not be really lazy and make a full day of hookie and go see Legion. So we did. Decent movie, nice amount of blood right off the bat. A bit slow in parts, but perhaps that's because I felt like my heart hadn't calmed down from the prior movie. After our movie marathon S took me over to H Dot's house to have dindin. H and I decided to have dinner and have it be healthy organic stuff after watching Food Inc the other day.
Talk about a horror film! Having been a vegan I know a fair share about how bad feedlots and mega farms are, but can usually ignore it for the most part. For a while now I've been feeling a pull back to some kind of vegetarianism. This sealed the deal. I remember learning about all the bad shit animals go through. I remember how bad that food is for us. For our planet. I'm not saying people shouldn't eat meat. That is entirely up to the individual. But I know there's a better way. And genetically modified foods? We are fooling ourselves if we really think we can outsmart mother nature. Seriously, we can't bend nature to our will. We are not invincible. As much as we'd love to think we're unstoppable because we're at the top of the food chain, we're not. At the rate we're going, there won't BE a food chain to be on top of. We can only fuck with nature before we fuck ourselves. You know that whole thing about how we only have one Earth? Well it's true. We keep breeding down plant species until there are fewer and fewer varieties left. The strong ones! The big ones! The ones that will feed us forever! Until that day when the one last variety of tomato succumbs to some new mutated, pesticide resistant bug and then we've successfully sent the tomato into extinction. Go us!
One of the best things the movie got across is that we all make a difference. Watching the majority of the movie there is an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. That we can't turn to the government because they're in fucking bed with Monsanto and whatnot. Which is a damn waking nightmare. But what we can do is choose. Every time we shop, choose organic, choose items that specifically say non GMO, grass fed, etc. It will make a difference. "They" will notice. Our money is our ballot and we can make "them" change with each and every cent we don't spend on CAFO downer beef and hormone laced milk. At least I fucking hope so. Hope is all we have.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
End o' Year Rant
Well I'm always complaining, might as well finish out oh nine with one. But this is valid!
Mkay, so I went out last night. I shouldn't have because I've been sick and sleeping all week. But I was going stir crazy and I have a hard time saying no to my friends. And I hadn't seen Hdot in a bit and I love her and so I went. We had a great time, hopped around, probably drank more than we needed to. Got a cab home and I spent the night at her house. Then we had to get back to her car today. We didn't get to it till 1:30, which yes is late in the day. Especially for somewhere that it's one hour parking.
BUT she had THREE parking tickets! For fuck's sake!! So the first one was because it was a night they clean the streets and she shouldn't have been there. So that one was at like 2:30AM. Ok fine, shouldn't have parked there over night. But then she got two more tickets for exceeding the hour limit. That's just excessive. And ridiculous and pisses me the fuck off! For being a responsible drinker and not driving home drunk last night, she will have to pay $91! The cab $11 plus $5 tip, and three $25 parking tickets. Thank you city and borough of Juneau. WTF?
My proposal is to have a grace period until noon. This would encourage people to leave their cars downtown and be safe and take a cab. And give em just enough time to drag their hungover asses out of bed and back downtown to get their cars. If they don't make it by noon, tough shit let the ticketing begin. In fact it wouldn't have to be all the downtown streets, obviously the cars would clog up all the "booming" retail business we have there. But there could be one street. Or two spots on every block that were "overnight friendly." Why not? I think it's a great compromise. I think there are a lot of options here and it should be changed. It would help everyone out. The city will still make tons of money ticketing people in other spots. The bars will make more money because people won't leave early in order to drive home. The cabs will get more fares. It's win, win, fucking win people!
And on a side note, cabs. I think they should have some promo going where if you keep your receipt from the night before and call them in the morning for the ride back downtown or where ever, you should get like $2 off or something. Promoting repeat business, doooo eeet!
And I think that's enough of me ranting for one year :) Hee hee. Be safe and have fun tonight. And be careful where you park your car!
And as a little aside, for the random passerby reading this who doesn't know me, I don't drive. I don't own a car and don't have my license. I just think this is outrageous and should be changed.
Mkay, so I went out last night. I shouldn't have because I've been sick and sleeping all week. But I was going stir crazy and I have a hard time saying no to my friends. And I hadn't seen Hdot in a bit and I love her and so I went. We had a great time, hopped around, probably drank more than we needed to. Got a cab home and I spent the night at her house. Then we had to get back to her car today. We didn't get to it till 1:30, which yes is late in the day. Especially for somewhere that it's one hour parking.
BUT she had THREE parking tickets! For fuck's sake!! So the first one was because it was a night they clean the streets and she shouldn't have been there. So that one was at like 2:30AM. Ok fine, shouldn't have parked there over night. But then she got two more tickets for exceeding the hour limit. That's just excessive. And ridiculous and pisses me the fuck off! For being a responsible drinker and not driving home drunk last night, she will have to pay $91! The cab $11 plus $5 tip, and three $25 parking tickets. Thank you city and borough of Juneau. WTF?
My proposal is to have a grace period until noon. This would encourage people to leave their cars downtown and be safe and take a cab. And give em just enough time to drag their hungover asses out of bed and back downtown to get their cars. If they don't make it by noon, tough shit let the ticketing begin. In fact it wouldn't have to be all the downtown streets, obviously the cars would clog up all the "booming" retail business we have there. But there could be one street. Or two spots on every block that were "overnight friendly." Why not? I think it's a great compromise. I think there are a lot of options here and it should be changed. It would help everyone out. The city will still make tons of money ticketing people in other spots. The bars will make more money because people won't leave early in order to drive home. The cabs will get more fares. It's win, win, fucking win people!
And on a side note, cabs. I think they should have some promo going where if you keep your receipt from the night before and call them in the morning for the ride back downtown or where ever, you should get like $2 off or something. Promoting repeat business, doooo eeet!
And I think that's enough of me ranting for one year :) Hee hee. Be safe and have fun tonight. And be careful where you park your car!
And as a little aside, for the random passerby reading this who doesn't know me, I don't drive. I don't own a car and don't have my license. I just think this is outrageous and should be changed.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Winter time
Brrrr. Okay so it's actually not that cold today. Just wet and chilly. The snow that dumped on us is pretty much gone down here. Making the town have that re-exposed garbage filled streets look we usually see in spring. Wish it was spring! Actually I'm excited for winter and settling into my new place. I'm not looking forward to unpacking all my crap I should just get rid of, but I do like setting up house. Things I plan on doing this winter season:
-Getting my ass to the gym. Regularly!
-Leaning back towards a vegetarian diet. I just feel drawn to it. Might as well accept it.
-Ace my state job interview on Monday and get a big girl job.
-Make myself spend time being artsy. Explore new mediums and craft styles. Just started using thin tip and paint brush tip markers. Very outside my comfort zone and fun.
-Work on being me and figuring out who that is. It's something I've thought about for a long time and need to get down to it. I need to know me and what I want before I can expect someone else to!
-Think outside myself. Again this is something I often think about but don't act on. I want to make a difference, even if it's just a teeny tiny one.
What I've done so far this winter:
-Reduced my smoking. I'm down from a pack a day to zero to two to five a day. I'll take it! And I'll get to zero all the time. But it's a big baby step for me.
-Moved! And dang I never want to again!
-Started pushing myself artistically Working on filling up all my half used sketch books. And actually honing and expanding my photography skills.
-Seen through bullshit. I'm over games and drama. I want friends not people that bring me down. Luckily I've got good friends.
And for my final list, Things I heart at the moment in no particular order:
-Lady Gaga I am thoroughly impressed with her level of committment to weird entertainment. I think she's rad and fun to shake my ass to, so there.
-The Kardashians I should be ashamed to admit this, but I'm so looking forward to the new show on Dec 13th. I think there should be a drinking game involved. Something along the lines of a shot every time they hold their phone in front of their mouth to talk. But you'd be passed out before it was over!
-My friends! This has definitely been an interesting fall into winter and not the best by far. I couldn't survive without my V!! And Bumble Bee and Lil' Miss Cap't.
-Candy canes Yum, yay Christmas time! But only the good ones, Bob's. So very derish! Dang I knew I should have brought one to work!
-V's parents A couple of those rare genuinely nice people! So very very nice. I haven't been around a family setting in so long, it's like being wrapped in a blanket and handed a kitten and cocoa and then being told silly almost off color jokes. And they're being super understanding of my money flow as I transition apartments and jobs.
Gee I guess that's about it. Now to try and do these lists. And semi regularly blog about it to boot!
-Getting my ass to the gym. Regularly!
-Leaning back towards a vegetarian diet. I just feel drawn to it. Might as well accept it.
-Ace my state job interview on Monday and get a big girl job.
-Make myself spend time being artsy. Explore new mediums and craft styles. Just started using thin tip and paint brush tip markers. Very outside my comfort zone and fun.
-Work on being me and figuring out who that is. It's something I've thought about for a long time and need to get down to it. I need to know me and what I want before I can expect someone else to!
-Think outside myself. Again this is something I often think about but don't act on. I want to make a difference, even if it's just a teeny tiny one.
What I've done so far this winter:
-Reduced my smoking. I'm down from a pack a day to zero to two to five a day. I'll take it! And I'll get to zero all the time. But it's a big baby step for me.
-Moved! And dang I never want to again!
-Started pushing myself artistically Working on filling up all my half used sketch books. And actually honing and expanding my photography skills.
-Seen through bullshit. I'm over games and drama. I want friends not people that bring me down. Luckily I've got good friends.
And for my final list, Things I heart at the moment in no particular order:
-Lady Gaga I am thoroughly impressed with her level of committment to weird entertainment. I think she's rad and fun to shake my ass to, so there.
-The Kardashians I should be ashamed to admit this, but I'm so looking forward to the new show on Dec 13th. I think there should be a drinking game involved. Something along the lines of a shot every time they hold their phone in front of their mouth to talk. But you'd be passed out before it was over!
-My friends! This has definitely been an interesting fall into winter and not the best by far. I couldn't survive without my V!! And Bumble Bee and Lil' Miss Cap't.
-Candy canes Yum, yay Christmas time! But only the good ones, Bob's. So very derish! Dang I knew I should have brought one to work!
-V's parents A couple of those rare genuinely nice people! So very very nice. I haven't been around a family setting in so long, it's like being wrapped in a blanket and handed a kitten and cocoa and then being told silly almost off color jokes. And they're being super understanding of my money flow as I transition apartments and jobs.
Gee I guess that's about it. Now to try and do these lists. And semi regularly blog about it to boot!
Monday, January 26, 2009
Plans, Scams, and Plarn Part III
Plans, Scams and Plarn Part III
Plarn
Lately I've been getting into the craft mode. I have several baby blankets or gifts that I need to make soon. Like yesterday. It'd be great if my little sis got something from me for my new nephew Bradley. Who's four month old. Way to be on it! I would like to make something for Sydne who is due in February and I have to make something for Harmonie who is due in March. So I've been looking through my books and online and getting all kinds of ideas not baby related.
I also hate plastic bags. Haaate them. But I have a ton of them. I just keep shoving them into a cabinet. And there they sit, waiting to be repurposed. I think I get it from my parents, they always had tons of bags around to "reuse" which we never really did. Except for emptying the litter box. Enter Plarn.
Plarn is plastic yarn, made from never gonna leave this earth plastic shopping bags. I found a really easy tutorial online on how to make the bags into workable yarn. I also found out about fusing bags to create fabric like material. I'm so excited. And nerdy. I can't do the fusing yet because I need wax paper. But making plarn? I'm so there! I think I'm going to make a kitchen rug first, that seems like an easy way to start out. Then maybe a shopping bag. Out of many shopping bags. Oh the nerd I am!
Now off to cut many many strips of plastic and watch the Italian Job.
Plans, Scams, and Plarn
This is going to be a three parter since blog material has been stacking up. Part one of Plans, Scams and Plarn:
Plans
So S and I have been talking plans. Plans for us and our future. They're all good and necessary, but only one is fun. Next year start TTC! Huzzah! So of course we were all baby centered when we went out for a date on Friday (which was a blast!). Well, more donor centered. And finding the cheapest way to have a baby. Hell the hetero's do it for free, why can't we?
One of our potential donor's was at the bar, since he owns it and all, and instead of waiting for him to get liquored up, S waits until she's had several martini's and blurts out: We need your sperm, J. We need it! He just ends up laughing, we all do. It was hilarious. But I think in a year he might be willing to spare some for us. We'll see.
Oh and Friday night rocked. We haven't been doing anything fun lately, so we decided to get dressed up and go out. I'll try to upload to flickr but it takes forever. Basically we were two hot bitches if I do say so myself:)
Okay back to plans. While bartending an incredibly boring offsite event I wrote a to do list for '09. Here goes.
- Get divorced I've been separated since '06/'07, completely in love with S, it's damn time.
- Pay off debt I have a very large balance that needs to go away. Hence me taking the job at the knife shop again.
- Start Savings Account
- Obedience train Zyda Enough said.
- Lose weight I'm tired of being fat and I know I can lose it. So this is the year.
- Pick a career
- Fix our relationship
- Make money from my crafts I only mean this in that I need to push myself. I am fairly crafty, if I can make any money off of it, maybe I can make it my job.
- Budget! And stick to it
- Get a passport and travel
- Take a class I've been out of school for about a decade, my brain is rotting. Any class, anywhere. From UAS to a craft class to something online. Anything.
- Be more communicative
- Learn a new skill or hobby
- Spend time with friends
- Quit smoking
Next up Part Two: Scams
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Ruling Queen of Procrasta Nation
So I got damn sick again this weekend. What the hell? I usually never get sick like that, I don't like it and I politely ask it not to happen again. No more pukey for me thanks very much. Maybe I'm developing an allergy to something, who knows?
So I was laid up on the couch last night instead of celebrating the inauguration with my friends. Lame lame lame. And we don't have cable, so I haven't seen anything about it. I'm just on the computer now to catch up on my mia days o' sickness.
So as of the last several months, we've been really bad at hanging out with our friends. Just horrible. So I invited one of my friends and her boyfriend over for Sunday dinner. That in turn meant we had to invite another couple of friends who we never hang out with. And then I couldn't leave my former roommate and her boyfriend out of it, so they came too.
Sarah kick our apartment's ass, well, she kicked the dirt's ass. She cleaned so much! And she hung pictures that we've been meaning to put up for at least a month. She did most of it the night I had to work an off site gig. And while they usually suck balls, this one was amazing! First off we got to listen to James Cotton, king of superharp, blues extraordinaire! Secondly, it was slammed the whole time which made it fun. And third, it didn't last all night, so I got to go back to the bar and relax for a bit. Things that weren't so great about it include me cutting my thumb on the foil on a wine bottle pretty early on in the night, me breaking several corks in the bottles (oops), middle aged yuppies tipping poorly and not understanding normal bar etiquette, and us running out of just about everything, especially tonic. But overall it was fantastic!
So anyway, we had our friends over, ate a ton of food and played games. Then several of us went out since it was holiday the next day, we had till 3am. And of course we used it all up. Then the next day I get super sick. I'm sure the alcohol didn't help, but I really think something else made me sick. Tuesday was spent entirely in bed. Today I'm better, but I'm tired from being sick. I really need to clean up from our friends coming over. I wanted to do it yesterday but couldn't. So that's what I should be doing right now. Or I should be walking the dog first. But I'm gonna finish this post instead. It won't take long.
I don't know how to say what I want. Ever. It's a gift I have:) And when I do, it comes out wrong. The answer to what I want is almost always the same and it's the truth. I want to be happy. Or more accurately, I want to be content. Of course there are tons of things I want, but they all add up to me being content. The biggest thing right now is her being content AND happy. And fuck I just don't know how to do that. So what do I do? It also doesn't help that I keep reading all of these baby blogs. I'm sorry I want children. It's what I've wanted since forever. A long long time ago I always said that I wanted to have my first child around 24 and my second one around 27, if not sooner. Well in less than six months I turn 28 with no hopes of child-dom in my future. And I can't just forget it and I'm sorry about that. But that's me. It's not about pressuring, it's just who I am. The end.
This whole post should probably be ignored, my brain is still fried from the fever.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Nowadays
I haven't felt pain like this since my dad died. I don't know what to do, all I can do is wait it out. And hope. But hope hurts. But I guess that's life, life hurts too. Five more days, I can make it. We can make it forever.
Friday, May 16, 2008
Will it last? Only if you vote.
I am excited about California making it's way towards gay marriage. Don't get me wrong, I'm super excited. But I'm pessimistic. Will it last? Will there be hundreds of happy, loving couples with void marriages in a few months because it gets revoked? Because some stranger decided to override a choice two adults in love made? Basically you have until it goes to a vote in November to get married legally, then it could be rescinded. I am all for voting, but supporters of gay marriage are still in the minority. There are a lot of close mined people who think they know what's best for strangers and will vote that way. So open minded Californians, VOTE!
But even with my pessimism there's hope. This could be the time it takes root, and other states will finally realize that same sex marriages won't disrupt the "sanctity"(yeah right) of hetero marriages. And then maybe the whole country will figure it out. Maybe. Makes me want to take out Sarah's copy of "Brides of March" and re-read it.
Speaking of stupid people with stupid, close minded opinions, we had dinner at my boss' house. No, she's not the stupid one, she rocks. I love working for her. She had Sarah and me over for dinner because we did so much for her birthday party. While she was making dinner we were talking about the news in CA, and gay rights in general. She's awesome and doesn't see what it matters who gets married to who. Exactly! But after dinner we were watching TV (we don't have cable, so any chance we get we gobble it up) and there was a doc on VH1 about the sex revolution. Very interesting. One part was about when AIDS first surfaced and how it took the government such a long time to even acknowledge it. There was a clip from a Phil Donahue show and he was talking to a woman in the crowd. This woman said basically that since gays were sinning, God was punishing them by giving them AIDS. Holy fucking shit, I wanted to break something. Just the look on her face, how she completely believed what she was saying! Phil had a look on his face like he wanted to hit her. I wish he had. But that doesn't solve anything. I wish it did sometimes.
My friends and I joke about my "warning signs" about becoming a lesbian. One of which would definitely be my gay advocacy. In high school, I was dating the X the whole time. Totally hetero. I might have had a HUGE crush on a girl, but never acted on it. I was always arguing (I mean debating) with the christian coalition assholes. Usually in English class because that was where the most controversial discussions took place. I always fought for gay rights. It was the one issue that, at the time had nothing to do with me, I cared the most about. I couldn't understand people who didn't accept gay lifestyles. I still don't understand.
Back to California, one of the articles I read had a quote that marriages should be left to people who procreate. Really?? Cause if that's the case, I think there are at least a few hetero couples who need to have their marriage license revoked. And quite a few gay couples with kids or TTC who deserve a real legal marriage. I just don't see how the close mined can believe what they say. It's just preposterous. Poppycock in fact.
But even with my pessimism there's hope. This could be the time it takes root, and other states will finally realize that same sex marriages won't disrupt the "sanctity"(yeah right) of hetero marriages. And then maybe the whole country will figure it out. Maybe. Makes me want to take out Sarah's copy of "Brides of March" and re-read it.
Speaking of stupid people with stupid, close minded opinions, we had dinner at my boss' house. No, she's not the stupid one, she rocks. I love working for her. She had Sarah and me over for dinner because we did so much for her birthday party. While she was making dinner we were talking about the news in CA, and gay rights in general. She's awesome and doesn't see what it matters who gets married to who. Exactly! But after dinner we were watching TV (we don't have cable, so any chance we get we gobble it up) and there was a doc on VH1 about the sex revolution. Very interesting. One part was about when AIDS first surfaced and how it took the government such a long time to even acknowledge it. There was a clip from a Phil Donahue show and he was talking to a woman in the crowd. This woman said basically that since gays were sinning, God was punishing them by giving them AIDS. Holy fucking shit, I wanted to break something. Just the look on her face, how she completely believed what she was saying! Phil had a look on his face like he wanted to hit her. I wish he had. But that doesn't solve anything. I wish it did sometimes.
My friends and I joke about my "warning signs" about becoming a lesbian. One of which would definitely be my gay advocacy. In high school, I was dating the X the whole time. Totally hetero. I might have had a HUGE crush on a girl, but never acted on it. I was always arguing (I mean debating) with the christian coalition assholes. Usually in English class because that was where the most controversial discussions took place. I always fought for gay rights. It was the one issue that, at the time had nothing to do with me, I cared the most about. I couldn't understand people who didn't accept gay lifestyles. I still don't understand.
Back to California, one of the articles I read had a quote that marriages should be left to people who procreate. Really?? Cause if that's the case, I think there are at least a few hetero couples who need to have their marriage license revoked. And quite a few gay couples with kids or TTC who deserve a real legal marriage. I just don't see how the close mined can believe what they say. It's just preposterous. Poppycock in fact.
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)